By Maureen Sharib
Back to the subject of what are we going to do “when the new wears off and the old shines through”?
What happens when a couple works together (either at home or out, in the world, somewhere) and they spend sixteen waking hours together (instead of four) every single day? Where do you go with that?
I did some research to find there are no small number of “help” (2million 310 hundred thousand google “hits”) pieces out there and the first one (at google) gives us seven “basic ground rules that must be followed to have a really happy long-term full-time relationship”. Before the author does that though, she tells us that she and her husband (coincidentally his name is “Bob” too!) have lived (and worked) together nigh on twenty years now. She also remarks on the fact that now with, an...
...“increase in the number of small (often franchised) businesses being set up on the back of redundancy payments, and with a growth in the numbers of people who telecommute from home, more couples are living and working together. This trend echoes an earlier time, when, for most of human history families worked and played together. The concept of leaving home to work would have seemed absurd to a hunter-gatherer. It would have seemed equally absurd to go anywhere without your loved-ones.Even after we became farmers we still retained the idea that the family was an economic as well as social unit. Only with the arrival of the industrial revolution a few hundred years ago did we become a people to whom "home" and "workplace" were really different, each with it's own set of relationships, rules, taboos and conflicts. With this division, and the strains that it produced, came separation and the terrible isolation of those left at home."
She then goes on to ask:
“So how do we get back to happily being a family as we were designed to be?”
Her seven basic ground rules paving the way of the future are as follows/some of them may surprise you. They are:
Don't separate work from the rest of your life.
Work with other people.
Maintain a nexus of friends outside of the core relationship
Explore and maintain shared beliefs.
Develop relationship rituals.
Work out mutually agreed roles.
Be honest and concrete about what you need of each other.
What do you think of that?
Maureen Sharib
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